Has it ever occurred to you that there is value in chaos and conflict? From a human viewpoint, we want everything to be pleasant, orderly, predictable. Most of us don't enjoy times of chaos or conflict, and I don't either. Yet, we also have an urge to move forward, to grow, to be and express "more" of the possibility and potential which we are.
One of the interesting (aka "annoying and irritating") things I've discovered along my journey is that whenever I claim an intention to move into some type of deeper understanding and expression of spiritual life, I am immediately presented with all sorts of situations which challenge my awareness and resolve.
I'm not normally a big fan of the question, "Why?", because too often we allow our human, egoic need for answers to keep us mired in victimhood and bondage to the past. Sometimes, though, we are blessed with opportunities to come to clarity around "why".