This can be a hard one, and especially hard if we want to persist in holding old beliefs around forgiveness. To forgive does not mean you have to "like" the person or what they did. It does not "excuse" behavior or make what happened "okay". It doesn't mean you're inviting a repeat of the situation. It simply means that you are willing to love yourself enough to stop carrying the grudge. It also means, to give Good in return for the "bad" you received.